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[quote=Anonymous]DH and I both have PhDs and are in the fields we greatly enjoy.  That said, I was underemployed for a while and stayed home a lot. DH did not have to think about planning, paying bills, shopping, driving kids to school and activities, cooking, cleaning, scheduling and managing everything and everyone, helping with homework, doctors’ appointments, correspondence with teachers, maintaining the house and yard, etc, etc, etc. I did all this without any recognition and occasionall “we would be fine without it”  comments. DH just went to work and did what he loves to do. Yes, we were both stressed that if something happens to his job, we’d be without money, but I was also the one feeling guilty about it.

Also, when I was out of the job, I volunteered at all the school events, I organized and hired teachers for extra curricular classes, I led story time in my native language, and often picked up my WOH friends’ kids. I am now extra nice to the SAHMs who volunteer because what they do benefits not only their kids but mine too.

When I finally found my current job, I could not believe how relaxing it is to WOH:) SAH is being the house manager - it’s exhausting and thankless work. If you don’t need the money and enjoy your job, you should feel guilty you get to work and your partner does not.[/quote]

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