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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you are making a false equivalency.  You are home for one week but have all the supports in place for a WOH life - full day child care, an even split of household responsibilities with your spouse, a system for taking care of your house/life outside of daytime hours (whether that is house cleaners, lawn care people, etc.)  I work part-time, but I don’t really have a lot of leisure time to go to the pool, read, have lunch with friends. I fill my time doing all the things my husband hates to do but I don’t really mind - cooking, cleaning, paying bills, mowing the lawn, managing the kid’s activities, driving them around, picking up the dry cleaning, grocery shopping, doing laundry, etc.  My DH does not mind that all these things are off his plate and I don’t mind that they are on mine. 
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This makes sense!  Maybe my job is flexible enough that I'm able to do all of those while working.  I'm not being facetious.[/quote]

It must be. I WOH and there is no way that I could work 40 hours (plus 5 hours commuting), pick my kids up at 3:00, shuttle them around until 5:30, make dinner, supervise homework, do baths, get them into bed, all before my DH comes home at 8:30 to finish bedtime. And, then do all the other things on that list after 8:30 and before I leave for work at 7:00 am. That’s why we have a nanny. If I was a SAHM, I wouldn’t have free time, I just wouldn’t have a nanny. I do think there are jobs that are flexible and allow you to do it all yourself, but in most families with a SAHP, the other parent does not have one of these jobs. [/quote]

This. It really matters what hours/travel the working spouse is putting in. Think of it this way: Couple #1 has two parents working 40 hour/week = a family contribution to the working world of 80 hours. Couple #2 had two parents, one working 60 hours and one working 20 hours = a family contribution of 80 hours. Couple #3 has two parents, one working 80 hours and one SAHP = a family contribution of 80 hours. Does it really matter which set up a family chooses? Each family has the same number of hours to accomplish the same work. [/quote]

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