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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would rather have my cousins and my uncle than the money. My siblings feel the same. The money is not a life changing amount when divided between six of us. I told my father that I don’t need it or want it under these circumstances. If my father secretly needs it for himself, he should let us know. It’s wrong for him to pretend that he is fighting for us. [/quote]

This was the position I took with my sister on a similar issue. It didn't work. She still feels entitled and I still feel shorted and our children, who know about the discrepancy, also resent it. It's better to work it out fairly if possible, even if you don't really need the money. [/quote]

I don’t want to be cold, but my father is angry with his brother and will die in maybe five years at the most having damaged how the family sees him. My uncle will also die soon, but my cousins will live forty or fifty more years. That’s a very long time for my siblings and I to be estranged from family. It will impact our children as well. I can’t accept this money and I cringe to think that our father will brag about how he dragged his brother through court for us. [/quote]

[b]There's something really wrong with you, OP. You seem to be lacking any empathy at all. Has anyone suggested that you might be a narcissist before? I'd recommend discussing the situation with a psychologist and seeing what issues they uncover.[/b]

I really hope you get help, even just for your children's sake. [/quote]

Totally agree with this.  OP,  everyone on this thread agrees on this (which rarely happens here) and you refuse to see the situation as it is.

Why are you blaming your dad? Is there something going on? Did he do something to you? Was he abusive? Why do you resent him over cousins and uncle who are obviously in the wrong here??[/quote]

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