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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The OP said "disrespect and lack of intimacy" and you have posters suggesting to join weight watchers or a book club.  The crux is, that after you raise your kids, your personal happiness is of no consequence.  In fact you are supposed to switch to the 50+ forum where you don't discuss fashion but instead it's about looking after aging parents before you get to be your husband's caregiver.  In other words, your life is going to be a "whole lot of nothing."  You're not supposed to take any risks, change or do anything "reckless" ever again.  The reason everyone with real money gets divorced is because they can.     [/quote]

So you ditch your husband, split your assets and then what?  You suddenly reverse the clock and go back 20 years and become young, wild and free? No.  If you want to do something exciting, you don't have to wait until you are divorced to do it (assuming it doesn't involve cheating).

If you're divorced, you'll still be you only now you won't have your long term marriage and the kids will be splitting the holidays, birthdays, summers, vacations between you and your ex.

If Op's husband has truly checked out and is off "living his own life" while still being married to OP and not even coming home until Op has already gone to bed then it is serious discussion time.  Ideally you nip that sort of thing in the bud when it first starts to happen and before your marriage goes off the rails.  But it sounds like, this is a well established pattern with the Op's husband so talking about it now may not do much good.  Still worth a try, though.[/quote]

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