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OP here.

Let's suppose that a child created from our embryos feels the typical stresses that go along with a standard baby adoption. Except in unusual circumstances, that child is better off alive than hanging out in a petri dish, being thawed, being used for science, or undergoing a compassionate transfer.

Life is stressful, and frequently we don't get to choose the burdens we bear. If I could wave a magic wand, perhaps I'd take away a future kid's possible pain from knowing we donated him as an embryo. But I only have my inner guide that tells me that a future kid would appreciate being given a chance at life, even if that life involved some psychological discomfort.

In short: The donation may mean emotional pain for the future kid, and I'm OK with that because the kid will get a chance to live.

Am I getting to the heart of your question?[/quote]
I'm an adoptive parent and as such, have read a lot about the pain some children who were adopted go through.  It seems to be a minority viewpoint but I have read more than once about kids who felt they would rather have been aborted.  In fact, I have a friend who was adopted who has such conflicting feelings she has said she wishes she'd never been born.  Although she's an adoptive parent also so I truly don't understand exactly where she's coming from, but it's easy to see that the adoption (or rather, the relinquishment) has led to a lot of pain.  She has recently (over 50 years old) learned about her birth family but has refused to contact them.  It's tough.  There are no easy answers.  Don't know if this is at all analogous to donated embryos but it is quite facile to think you know how the future kids will fee.[/quote]

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