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[quote=Anonymous]My parents separated when I was 7 and divorced when I was 9. My dad cheated on my mom with one of her best friends/the wife of one of his best friends. We used to vacation with them. My now step brother was one of my best friends as a kid. My parents were miserable married and, though my mom fought the divorce a lot, that was largely for religious reasons; she backed down when my dad and step mother had a kid of their own. My dad and step mother have been married for 25+ years now; seem mostly happy and are now old enough that I can’t really imagine them divorcing. My mom never remarried mostly for reasons I don’t understand. She’s never been particularly happy. My dad treated her horribly, obviously, but I think her current circumstances are largely on her.

My childhood post-divorce was mostly happy. Liked 2 of my 4 step/half siblings and the step brother my age was a close friend. Didn’t like my step mother much growing up — she wasn’t that nice to me for reasons I now sort of understand — by we have a good relationship now and she’s a great grandma to my kids (her only grandkids, which helps). No big upheaval: lived 60% with my mom in the apartment we always lived in; stayed at the same school I’d always attended; socioeconomic circumstances (UMC) stayed the same (dad paid a lot of support and step mothers higher income offset additional children, supporting two households, etc); lived with dad 40% of the time about 30 minutes away — so a little annoying, but not a catastrophe. Realize I was lucky in these respects.

No real hard feelings about the divorce now or obvious effects. Happily married for almost 10 years. 2 kids with 1 on the way. DH’s parents are still happily married 35+ years on, but has a divorce in their family so not judgmental. My stepbro seems a bit more affected: divorced over wife wanting kids; happily recoupled but firmly against kids and remarriage, which he attributes to childhood in a way I only partially understand. Other younger sibs aren’t married, but 1 is largely circumstantial (and she probably will be soon) and the other is still pretty young.
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