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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Did you forgive them?  What age were you as a child?  Who in your family didn’t handle it well?  How is your marriage?  Did your parents divorce affect your marriage,- your parenting?  How about your siblings? Please indicate your response from either a female or male response. Thank you.

More couples are divorcing- because of your parents divorce, would you ever?[/quote]

It's not accurate to say there are more divorces now.  The divorce rate is decreasing: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/dvs/national_marriage_divorce_rates_00-16.pdf

On to your other questions -- my parents got divorced when I was about 5, I think.  I actually don't ever remember them being together.  As far as the divorce, from what I hear from my dad and stepmom, my mother was terrible.  (My stepmom didn't come into the picture until 5 years later -- so take that with a grain of salt.)  There have been a couple of aftermath incidents -- my mom, dad, and their spouses got into a big fight after I went to college re: money which resulted in them being unable to be in the same room for about 10 years.  My best friend had to babysit my mother at my wedding so I didn't have to deal with the drama.  Then some more angling baloney after my kids were born.  While annoying, I gained incredibly adept diplomacy skills between navigating their occasional baloney and having two, completely different immediate family groups.  Knowing my parents as adults, it's clear they are not well suited to each other and a divorce was the best course of action.

I ended up getting divorced, but I don't think it's because of my parents influence or their divorce.  However, now I'm in a solid, long-term relationship that I expect to last a lifetime.  Not getting married anytime soon due to tax issues.

As far as parenting, I think everyone parents in reaction to how they were parented.  My parents' divorce definitely influence how I co-parent with my ex-husband.  I never say anything bad about him, actively encourage my children's' relationship with him, and try to keep our differences to a minimum.  And fortunately, he does the same.  The biggest difference between my parents and I is that I will not have any more children.  While I love my half-siblings, I often feel like a third wheel in my respective family groups.  It's nothing they do purposefully, but it's little things like, "Remember this amazing tradition we always do at this holiday?  It's so awesome."  "Gosh, no I don't."  "What!? I can't believe you don't remember all the times we did this."  The reality is that I left for college before they started the tradition and only spent every other holiday with them, so I might have participated in the tradition 3x in my life.  My family doesn't ever see that side of the equation.  Again, it's nothing malicious, but it's not a pleasant feeling that my family doesn't realize that I wasn't around.  I don't want my kids to experience that at all.

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