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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ever feel like UMC parents spend WAY more money on their teens now than your parents did when you were a teen -- and your parents now want to re write history about it? Just sat thru a painfully long conversation with my parents going on about how great it is that a cousin bought her 15 year old a car and it allows him to get to his volunteer gig and how else would he get there with 2 working parents?? And yet when I was a teen (15 yrs ago) my parents would neither buy me a car nor allow me to work so I could buy a car. And when I pointed this out it was -- oh you should have asked, we may have bought you one. LOL -- right. Along with -- where did you have to go?? WTF?? UH -- you realize your own kids would turn down ECs and jobs ALL THE TIME bc they never had dependable rides and rode the yellow bus to school like dorks in 12th grade, but now it's sooooo great and they just didn't buy us a car bc we didn't ask for one?

They were freaking frugal -- we basically got food and clothes -- not a single vacation, certainly no car, and no college wasn't fully paid for. And yet now it's all forgotten?? IDK why I'm annoyed (except for the fact that I have to sit thru a rendition of what every long lost cousin is doing with their kids constantly -- I see these cousins once in 5 yrs max). Doesn't much matter as I'm a grown adult with a good salary, car etc. and spend how I want now -- but give me a break on re writing history. Is this just my family?[/quote]

This is likely a social class thing, and elderly parents should be happy if their kids and grandkids have it better than they did.

I however, have a similar situation as OP but due to my H being from Europe. He and his parents are totally unfamiliar with camps, travel sports, college application processes, and the costs of everything. They are clueless and it's become a big burden on me. We both work FT and I have to literally do everything on the homefront and kids.

And I always laugh inside when H or his father pretend they play tennis or ski despite never taking a lesson or spending more than a handful of days doing either.  They are upfront about never taking vacations: "Hotel vacations are a waste of money when you can just house-guest, sleep and eat at a relative's house for a month."[/quote]

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