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[quote=Anonymous]My mother did this.  Completely.

She did give me a used car at 16--  because she wanted my sibling and I to have jobs, so there needed to be a chauffeur.  I was also required to grocery shop, run errands etc.  (And even when she was home, she didn't want me using her car.)

She helped me A LOT identifying colleges that would likely give me scholarships etc. and encouraged me to save from the job above.  So, I got into a great college, got a lot of scholarship $$ and took out loans.  She paid a small part--  mostly from the money I was required to save.  I appreciated her help but did not appreciate hearing all of the time how she paid for college.  (I was even required to pay for my own books, toiletries etc.)

She would then talk about how she helped with my kids.  (She gave them a $100/year with strict instructions that it be saved and babysat three times.)  When called out on that.... she said that was my fault because I didn't live closer.  (She retired early, before I had kids.)

Lots of history rewriting.

I am a Gen-Xer so my parents did not do a ton for me.  To answer the previous poster's "inquiry"....  I was indeed "abused" in that their smoking caused me to have extreme health problems.  After finishing kindergarten in the pediatric ICU, I clearly remember the doctor telling them that they could NOT smoke in the car, with me in the same room etc.  They nodded.  My mom lit up in the car no more than several miles from the hospital after I was let out of ICU.

Now, I have the privilege of spending LOTS of money to try to manage said health issues, miss work, miss fun activities etc.

Reality is--  we all do some re-writing.  When it's our parents, it hurts.[/quote]

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