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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is what my parents do - say they are dying to go on a family vacation and then pick something that interests them and is often inconvenient for others, then expect us to pay (although they certainly have the money to treat us all).
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Are you not embarassed to accept money from your parents or inlaws now that you are an adult? I would be. [b]In my culture we pay for our parents and inlaws once they get older, even if we are not as wealthy as them.[/b] Just a sign of respect for our parents they have done for us.
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Oh, so in your culture you also disclaim any inheritance, because you don't take money from your parents as an adult?

No?

Then pipe down.  It all ends up as a wash.   [/quote]

No, i[b]nheritance is fine because the parents are already dead by then. [/b]We don’t take ourboarents’ money when they are alive and can spend it on themselves.[/quote]

My dad would say he would rather see me more often while he is alive than pay for a new kitchen when he is dead.

He lives in a place with very expensive air tickets.  [/quote]

Let's stop here.  This is the USA.  Throughout my long life [I'm the mom of adult children] I've known many people who came here from a plethora of other countries. As peers and parents of my peers.   If my kids need a new car or home reno or want a reasonable vacation whatever and don't have the cash am I supposed to squat on my money?  That is ludicrous.  I'm supposed to take money from young adults for what?

If they have a frickin old sofa and the frame collapses I can't give them money to put together some stuff from Ikea or order from a macy's or Belfort?   That doesn't make them disrespectful or leaches.  I'd be a rude b1tch to not help or to attach strings.  [/quote]

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