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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow. Very rude to ask your kids to be in the wedding and then not allow them at the reception. I realize this would upset people, but I would send my DH (I am assuming he is the brother of the groom) and I would stay home with the children. Strange babysitters would have been my first problem. I am sorry about your MIL, but that doesn't sway my opinion of this situation.[/quote]
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I can't believe they expect your kids to be decorations for the wedding but then they can't go to the party. I seriously would consider pulling them out of the wedding because of this. Normally, I understand when couples don't want kids at their weddings, but to expect them in the wedding and not at the reception is really rude.[/quote]

+2 and normally I am one who thinks people should do as they want - but that is just insane. [/quote]

My 7 and 8 year old daughters were in a wedding last year where the bride's family has TONS of kids (ranging from ages 3-14) who were also invited to the wedding but not reception. Basically, it was explained to us that she wanted to invite ours to also attend reception, but inviting our girls and not the rest of the (16 other) kids who were actually family members would be seen as a slight. And they really didn't want the reception turning into a kid dance party. Totally get it. But it was still awkward. We came in from out of state (wouldn't have missed it) and had to find a babysitter to stay with our flower girls during the reception. This was explained about 3 months in advance...but still felt disappointing and strange. But also, even more awkward was the number of wedding guests who approached my DH and me at the reception and asked "so where are the little flower girls?" --and the looks on their faces when I explained that the bride and groom preferred to have an adults-only reception. I did my best to "defend" the choice ("well...you know...if they invited our girls, they couldn't very well exclude the little cousins"), but the response (many, many times) was "but they were IN the wedding!!"
By the end of the night, I was pretty well convinced that I wasn't the only one to think it strange for the bride/groom to have asked our girls to be in the wedding and disappear for the reception. 
That said, they loved being in the wedding. But I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a grand disappointment for them to miss out on the celebration afterward.[/quote]

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