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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't know if this is about class and gender roles or more so that "merger" couples (i.e. met at the law firm, med school, or when both were already somewhat accomplished professionally) have trouble sustaining two "big" jobs when they have kids. I've read interesting data that more high earning individuals are marrying other high earning individuals (versus when people got married earlier) and in those circumstances, sometimes one has to scale back or step out when they have kids. Because of, ya know, biology, sometimes its the mom b/c multiple maternity leaves was going to stall her career anyway.

I think [b]if the phenomenon the OP is noticing were a devotion to traditional gender roles you would see this division of labor happen earlier[/b], but I don't know many UMC/UC women who left the workforce upon getting engaged or before having children (which my mother and grandmothers did). Instead I think it's the reality that most families can't make two high-intensity jobs work, and people in high-intensity, high-status jobs marry other people with big jobs. [/quote]
Yup, this. I do think, though, that UMC women are making choices. I am the PP with a PhD, and we could easily afford a lot more childcare so that DH and I could have similarly demanding jobs. But, at that point, I would be pretty much leaving my kids in the hands of paid care providers (many people would argue that we basically already do). DH would actually prefer even less time with care providers than we currently have, but he views it as impossible to make any concessions. Since I was actually offered the more demanding, higher paying job and turned it down, it's very clear to me that trade-offs are possible.[/quote]

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