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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Its your parents and family. If you cannot be generous (only $100? That's not expensive) with them, there is no hope for you. [/quote]

Well brunch will be $300 for 6 of us without a tip and alcohol. MIL drinks like a fish. Nephews graduation present $200. And two baby showers each $150.
That's 1k this month on gifts alone. We have huge family and there are bdays or something every single month.[/quote] Why are you spending so much on gifts? What kind of graduation? If HS, $200 is way too much. $150 for a baby shower seems excessive to me as well.[/quote]

What is the appropriate gift for HS graduation and baby shower? Thanks[/quote]

Wow. I'd say $50ish for each gift.[/quote]

NP here. See, I would have originally thought this too, but DH's family is very similar to OP's re gifts and they go over the top for every occasion and talk about how cheap everyone is who isn't on par with them. (And they know that our HHI is significantly less than theirs.)

Obviously spend what you want to, but it isn't always fun being the one guest with a small gift, especially when they open in front of everyone and yours gets the pause with cricket chirps, like "am I missing something?"

OP, I've found that what worked for us was a discussion about fairness of gifts. We agreed on an amount that was reasonable to spend on all relatives per occasion, my side and his side, keeping it even Steven. Like $50 per birthday. So if one wants to spend more on that occasion, it has to come from their own personal spending money and DH needs to decide whether it's worth skipping a few dinners out with the guys to chip in the remainder of his $500 share for a $2000 photo frame that his sister picked out and decided would be from everyone.[/quote]

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