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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The thing is that whatever you want to call it, and as much as everyone seems to be attempting to be supportive of the guy in question, this IS abuse.  It's psychological abuse!

The question to ask yourself (and your DH) is: [b] Are you able to control this behavior in other settings?  Are you able to rein it in and not scream at your boss?  At your mother?  Then if you CHOOSE to not rein it in and scream at your wife, then you are choosing to abuse another human being. 
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I am just so sick of this shit, this 'oh the poor men, they work so hard, it's so unfair that they have to be parents too'.  Why exactly is it unfair?  Many of us women also work fulltime and have children and we generally don't choose to be narcissistic raging assholes who take it out on others.

That said, I have the same child husband who tantrums and demands and rages.  My children know when to stay out of his way.  We leave the house a lot together.  THis morning they were woken up by yet another one of his rages.  We have tried medications like Zoloft, classes, therapy.  At this point, I usually vacation without him, taking just the children somewhere.  We have a very full life which usually doesn't include him because he can't seem to get it together and act normal.  But that's his choice, not my burden.[/quote]

I'm a PP and this is what kills me. To the rest of the world, he's a fantastic guy. People are always commenting how nice he is. Nobody believes that he's a raging a-hole at home and they blame me for our problems, which just gives DH more fuel. "See, everyone agrees YOU'RE the problem!"[/quote]

OMG yes.... Everyone tells me how much they all love DH and how lucky I am and how lucky our girls are to have him as a father. I just smile and nod and change the subject. [/quote]

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