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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you can set boundaries and you can change them.  I have full custody and I used to tolerate my Ex in my house for long stretches with our kids watching movies or playing.  They were little and it was safer to have them in my home.  They are older know and at a certain point I cut off that kind of access.  If the kids have something to do and need to be at my house (usually for homework), then Ex has to leave and comeback at an agreed time.  If he wants then to do homework at his house, then it's up to him to provide an environment conducive to that - computer acces, a printer, wifi, a quiet space and support from a tutor if he is not able to support subject material himself.

You also don't necessarily have to have a big talk about it.  Recently, I stopped allowing Ex into my home at drop off. I did this thru body language - I open thendorr and stand in front of it.  The kids squeeze around me while I say "thanks for dropping them off".  Ex is too big to squeeze around, so he stays on the porch. Without saying anything, he understands that he has not been invited in.  Other times I will open the door and say "come on in" while walking away from him and still talking to him so he basically comes in and follows me in order to continue the conversation. [/quote]

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