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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband's parents are in the area.  We have hired childcare and have a back up plan for our kids in case plan a does not go through. We don't ask ILs for help unless it's an emergency.  However, whenever there has been an emergency they haven't been able to help with the kids because they are too busy watching their other grandkids on a regular basis. The siblings refuse to hire childcare (they have money). They just are too anxious about it, so they keep flying in the ILs  We have a plan and we are fine, but are just annoyed that we haven't been able to have help during actual emergencies (e.g. kid in hospital) because siblings can't get it together to hire help. okay, rant over. [/quote]

I'm curious if your ILs spend time or watch your kids outside of emergencies, i.e. do they have a close relationship with them even though they're not always available to you? I'm the out-of-town sibling in this scenario, and my parents watch my brother's kids full time. I'm sometimes a little jealous and resentful about how much my parents are devoted to my brother (and the money my brother and SIL have saved on childcare, ugh). There have been times where I've wanted my parents to be able to visit last minute and they can't because of their obligation to my nephews. However, I see how it's unhealthy and detrimental to the grandparent/grandkid relationship for my parents to be at my brother/SILs beck and call. And my parents feel their hands are tied because they are doing it for the benefit of my nephews (much longer story here).  Overall, I'm thankful that when I DO have my mom and/or dad come into town to watch our kids, it's a fun and special time for all parties involved. [/quote]

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