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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]MIL sounds nuts but so does OP and I think this is really a silly dispute between the two of them.

I'd just let it go - it wouldn't surprise me if everyone ignored this if it just quickly went away.

Really who cares - its not like its an obscene nickname she is using.[/quote]

But it isn't between MIL and OP. It's between DS and MIL. He is old enough to decide how he wants to be addressed and MIL won't respect that.[/quote]

He's old enough to learn that you can't control what your family calls you.  [/quote]

He is old enough to have an opinion and be upset if it isn’t respected for no reason. [/quote]

Right - so let this be a dispute between the child and his strange grandmother.  Hopefully one of them will realize how stupid it is and let it go, something the parents in the middle of this have been unable to do which is probably as much the issue as anything else.  Or to put it another way I think grandmother here is a lot more likely to listen to "Ted" and drop this since I suspect this is really a conflict between grandma and her DIL and DIL won't step out of this trap.[/quote]

This is so stupid.  No, you don't let someone - a relative! - call a little kid a name that upsets him and just let it "be a dispute between them."  Or if you do, at least take the restrictions off of the kid, and let him say whatever he feels like.  [/quote]

The child should not be getting upset about something like this - Ted is a common way to shorten Theodore which is a mouthful and hence[b] a name he is going to hear a lot and need correct or learn to ignore. [/b] But Ted is likely in part getting upset because his mother is being dramatic about this too.  I do agree grandma should respect everyones wishes but I suspect she is looking for a fight and getting exactly what she wants here - it takes two to fight so one party here can and should just walk away and that is the example that someone should be setting for Ted.[/quote]

NP.  But this is coming from his own grandmother! She HAS been corrected, numerous times, and disregards what the child says and what the parents say.  I think it's reasonable for a child to get upset over this.  Why doesn't grandma do this to anyone else? Why only him? Why doesn't grandma listen when I tell her what my name is?  It sounds like the child has learned how to stand up for himself but he's dealing with an adult - a family member to boot - who deliberately ignores him.  The child should not have to be the one to act like an adult in this situation. [/quote]

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