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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What makes one unlikely to cheat is the character trait called integrity. You either have it or you don't. No need to qualify or explain it.[/quote]

Uh huh. And what happens if you have the character trait called integrity and your spouse hands you one called celibacy? And never takes it back?

Until you have lived in a celibate marriage for, oh, let's say 5+ years, don't go casting stones. Sexual starvation can make.people.do things they never thought they would do. [/quote]

Then you have a choice to make.  But, for a person of integrity, that choice doesn't involve lying and cheating.  It involves the difficult work of honesty and making hard choices - talk about the lack of sex and make an effort to repair it, ask for an open marriage or ask for a divorce.

I was celibate for over a year, after I found out my DH was cheating and while I was trying to see if the relationship could be salvaged.  After we split up permanently, I was celibate for an additional period of time because I wanted to focus on myself and my children and I didn't want to have to meet the needs of anyone else.  I was celibate for longer than 5 years.  I love sex and was sorry to see it go for awhile but it was really the best thing to create a life that would ultimately be healthier.

I had enough self-respect to end the relationship rather than cheat and lie and manipulate my now exH.

Sex is an important component of a relationship, but lack of sex isn't enough to make me sacrifice my own dignity and ethics.[/quote]

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