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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]At the end of the day she was trying to shelter you. .[/b][/quote]

NO.  No, MIL cared about who saw the baby first.  See the following from the OP:

"My MIL stopped her before she got to the room and told her to leave now. She then proceeded to send her a Facebook message telling her “Our family will be visiting with the baby first. Please stay away from the hospital.” "

That's not a caring MIL, that's a greedy grandma.[/quote]

I would agree with you if she had been manipulating OP's mom too. But she didn't. She was just keeping the initial meeting family. [b]That is, for better or worse, normal and expected. [/b][/quote]

Not necessarily--and, regardless, if her initial instinct wasn't to check in with OP's DH at the very least, she's way out of line.[/quote]

Some people have really close friends.  Most people would think friends are tier 2. Without an ability to check with OP's DH (who was in the delivery room) MIL worked with social norms to make a decision. You can tell her BFF is actually a really close friend that you would welcome at future births without making it seem like she's satan for doing something 90% of people would think is normal.[/quote]
I do not get this thinking at all. I do not get to decide for other people what they want. And to say 'family first' is f*** up. She did not say 'hey she is having a hard time, cannot take anymore visitors, you want to wait out here?" No, she told her to leave, that was presumptuous and RUDE.[/quote]

She didn't punch the friend in the face. She didn't take away her phone. She didn't have security remove her from the building. She made the wrong call and I agree with PPs suggesting that OP should tell her MIL that friend was welcome and that particular friend IS like family but acting like MIL is satan is ridiculous.

Another poster has extrapolated that this is all about MIL wanting to hold the baby before everyone including OP's mom, something she did not say at all in her post.

IMO MIL did her best with the info she had. Wrong call but not malicious so I don't understand demonizing her.[/quote]
She was rude, she and out of line.[/quote]

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