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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I nudged my husband but I'm newly pregnant with our first, so he could be forgiven for not thinking to recognize the holiday.  What did your DH do last year?  Has he dropped the ball on Mother's Day before?[/quote]

You're not a mother. [/quote]

Yeah, huge eyeroll here. Of course it would be fine and cute for your husband to celebrate mother's day with you, but the idea that you decided to push him for recognition when you're just newly pregnant? Come on.[/quote]

Well, congratulations on being a garbage person.  We tried for a long time and are very excited to be expecting.  He'll get recognition on Father's Day too, and you can continue to be garbage then.  Go on.[/quote]

Not the PP, but the "you don't agree with me so you're garbage" is a bit overplayed these days.[/quote]

No, telling someone she's not a mother makes you garbage.  It's not about agreeing, it's about basic decency.[/quote]

I have no skin in this particular game, but there is valid reason to disagree on the definition of "mother".  Many would argue that you have to give birth.  If that's not your definition fine, but it's not an invalid definition.[/quote]

You can have a different definition for yourself, sure.  It's shitty behavior to push it on someone else, especially the way PP did to disparage someone who was clearly excited.  I wonder if she tells women whose kids have died that they can't celebrate Mother's Day?  Women who've experienced a miscarriage or stillbirth?  Be better, people.[/quote]

Oh come on. Yeah, if you've only had miscarriages, you're not a parent. A full stillbirth is different. And yes, I've had miscarriages as well as living children. Next you're going to say that someone who treats their pet like a child is also a mother because we can define motherhood however we want. If PP wants to celebrate, she can do whatever she wants, but it's not at all unreasonable to point out that without an actual child ever in the picture, she's not actually a parent. And as long as we're calling out bad behavior, PP's response was just as "shitty" (and you will no doubt say mine is as well).[/quote]

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