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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm no expert, but I'd focus on his recovering from the trauma way before I'd worry about him missing school. Taking away all his stuff just seems cruel.[/quote]

I agree.  Are they trying anything non-punitive?

Is he really able to go to school right now?

We worked with ours by telling him he had to GO. Period.  Go into the school.  If he couldn't stay he could come home.  He could come home at any point.  Obviously I was a SAHM.

His mental health was more important than education at that point.[/quote]

She’s been trying non-punitive things for years. Has been trying this because nothing else has worked. She is doing this under the guidance of experts.

Everyone on here seems to think he’s going to recover from the trauma in a few weeks if he (went to in patient) or (was seeing a psychiatrist) or (mom wasn’t being punative). The kid has been in thereapy for years (at least since 4 or 5). He still has to regularly be with his dad. Who may not be hitting him, but probably is emotionally abusing him. And the courts will NOT reduce or eliminate visitation. His trauma will not be “cured” because is still in contact (and very much loves) his abuser.

I’m trying to help my very overwhelmed friend find more resources to help her. [/quote]

I'm the PP you quoted.  Guess what?

Our son was depressed, anxious and suicidal. In grade 6.  We also worked with experts.  Counselor,  psychologist and psychiatrist.

You are on the outside looking in.  My advice is from someone who has lived it.

Is Mom focused on school or are you?  Are you saying a child in this state is NOT seeing a psychiatrist?  Do you even know?

Trauma is never cured.

School is not the biggest issue here.  At all.

You've been given some resources to pass along.  I hope Mom will get this child into someone beyond a counselor.

One other thing to suggest you can also bitch about:

Have trained professionals, beyond a counselor, outline the danger to this child's mental health to the courts.  Perhaps a cessation in visits is needed to see if it helps.[/quote]

Adding:  No, the courts won't act on her assessment.  Unless he's seen either a psychologist or psychologist, and that in depth assessment has been presented to the court with recommendations,  nobody knows what the judge will do.[/quote]

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