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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have because I have teenagers and totally get the worry that comes with them driving. Even my oldest (19) who is a good driver I think about on the road all the time.  Late at night with sketchy weather is a huge anxiety to me when they are out on the road. I would have loved to give her mom the piece of mind she is off the road and safe. [/quote]

+1 to this.

OP, you have kids--wouldn't you rather they took the most cautious option if faced with a potentially bad drive at night?

Wouldn't you be glad to know someone was helping them out the way your relative was helping this girl? If not -- would you rather your own young adult child just slept in the car rather than "bother" someone like you, whose entire objection is based on your being a bit discomfited for just one night?

As for "after 10 the roads will be clear anyway": This was all being discussed before 10, correct? Weather this year has been so strange, and so different from one area to the next, that I wouldn't have assumed that after her shift, her particular drive would have been fine. Sure, it probably was, in the end. But you really were eager to say no, and you note that you don't like anyone staying with you. I don't love it either and we have no room but I'd have said yes because I have a DD about the age of that young woman and I wouldn't want her driving if she felt it wasn't safe.

Nor would I be comfortable with her "springing for a cheap hotel room" as you so easily suggest--have you done that lately yourself? Do you know that a basic, safe, decently clean hotel in an OK location is not truly cheap?

I wouldn't take just any total stranger in, but in the circumstances you describe, where I trusted the judgment of the person recommending the guest, I'd say yes.

Your fear that you'd become this woman's "crash pad" if she stayed one night is...based on what? Unless you cut her a key, how could that happen? You'd just say no if that happened. Your crash pad worry was just another reason you found for saying no.

You're owning your choice, but just consider what you'd want if your own child were in that situation.

[b]Would you pick up a middle-aged woman whose car was stranded in snow on a rural highway during an unexpected storm? Road covered in snow rapidly piling up, no plows will come (believe me), no way to know anyone else will pass by but you? I think you'd have left my mom there in her car all those years ago. I'm glad the stranger who stopped to help her didn't drive past her out of fear he'd become her de facto taxi, or out of an assumption there probably was a hotel somewhere near enough for her to walk to through the fields.....
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SHE HAD ANOTHER PLACE TO GO. And when my kids are in their 20s, they will be responsible for find their own place to stay if they work 90 minutes from their homes. I would NEVER call someone and ask them to house my friend's child which is the case here. Also, your post becomes more and more insane toward the end. Take a pill. It wasn't a midwest blizzard. I would have picked up your mother and taken her to a safe location. I probably wouldn't have taken her into my home, weirdo.[/quote]

You are not a pleasant person. Reap what you sow![/quote]

I posted above--more and more insanely, apparently. The driver didn't take her to his home. He drove her to our house and he stayed with us that night.  And you're right, shouting PP! Revel in your correctness. It wasn't a Midwest blizzard! Worse. It was a southern freak storm that dumped 14 inches of snow in a day, back when forecasting wasn't great, our state had no way to plow many roads, and nobody had cell phones with them. Glad to know you'd have picked her up, but you'd have probably thought we were weirdos for asking you to stay rather than get on an unplowed highway, and you'd have headed out again. And found that the highway was shut down and the couple of hotels were already full, which is what happened. But better to brave the impassable roads than stay in the insane weirdos' home.

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