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Interesting you said "chose to throw her life away" as though there is no possible redemption for her.  Addicts do recover all the time, many without benefit of rehab.  Family, or someone who acts like family, stepping in with real help, not enabling, is almost always the way it happens, together, often, with lots of NA.

Your in-laws are enabling and expecting you to do the same.  You need to have a heart to heart discussion with them about it and tell them you will not participate in enabling.  They could really benefit from some Naranon meetings and you or your DH should offer to take them.

From there the steps are clear.  What is it about your background that has you jump to writing off a human being, especially one to whom you are related, instead of a more constructive and human approach?

Oh, and yes, I have been there and done that.  [/quote]
OP here. I asked you how you and your spouse navigated the issue of financially supporting the addict and the relatives enabling him/her before there was a crisis. You responded with more rambling about what a saint you are for putting the addict in law back together. Clearly, you want kudos. So, applause, applause, applause. Take a bow. I am not taking what little free time I have in my life after handling my responsibilities and problems to fight the addiction battle for SIL AND fight the denial battle for MIL/FIL. If that makes me a bad person, I’ll be bad every day of my life.[/quote]

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