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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have multiple friends and a sister who are in your position. Their adult children have rejected the idea of becoming parents and seem to be perpetual children themselves, constantly moving, changing jobs and asking for financial help from their parents. I think this partially comes from the disrespect for the roles of traditional mothers, who are constantly dissed on this site and others. Being a SAHM puts women on the defensive yet working moms are often stretched beyond their limits.[/quote]

Please stop perpetuating the idea that people who don’t have children are children themselves. You don’t even know if that’s the life they chose or what’s going on. Adults of childbearing age today had a lot of economic obstacles their parents never had to deal with, so you don’t know why they keep moving for jobs or asking for help. It seems like a wise and very adult, if difficult, decision to not bring children into that situation. I know that can be difficult for some of you boomers to understand, but maybe not everyone is making unlimited choices with supportive circumstances. If [b]you wanted your children to have children, maybe you should have done more to make sure we had a world conducive to that. Or were you busy raising your kids? [/b]Maybe childless people aren’t useless. [/quote]

NP here. What would be more difficult for this generation than for boomers? Absolutely cannot figure that one out.

We were the first women who were fully expected to enter the job force  in the 70s and 80s, whether we wanted to or not, with zero maternity leave much less pay, substandard childcare, and misogynist bosses...yep..even some female bosses. We had that glass ceiling. We are still punching thtough that, and niw we are dealung with ageism.

We were expected to have it all and do it all. Little help with anything...we did the housework and the meals. We were told our birthing labor would be "uncomfortable" but that we could breathe through it. We raised you little buggers making sure you had everything, told you that you could be anything. There were no cruises, trips to Europe, and a lot of luxuries that millennials think are standard  today. Our first home was a rented apt. We lived through 3 recessions...I waited in a line to fill my car for 4 hours in 1979, and had to leave my car there as there was no gas...for a week. No computers, no internet..we researched our dissertations in the library with whatever available microfiche documents or journals there were and typed those damn things  on a typewriter with the citations placed at the bottom while feeding you. We went to your games, your plays, your  parties. 
We were called "honey" work and worried about our jobs if we took off.
 We were BADASS. You got nothing on us...nothing.

Don't you dare tell us what kind of world we left for you....you have it so much better. Your worst enemies are your peers...competition, judging, one upmanship. It is tough to watch. We helped each other...babysitting clubs, play groups, etc. These women are still my friends.
And yes, I would still have kids.Best thing ever- and not afraid to admit that it was ok to be a Mom as if it would say something about my intellect.

If you don't want kids, fine, but place your blame elsewhere....and, yes, you are missing out. [/quote]

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