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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Indon’t Know if I agree with everyone else. If your situation (financial and otherwise) was bad enough to make a second child impossible, you would not resent your husband. Since you do, my guess is that you can probably make it work. Since you had agreed before on 2 and since [b]the wife does most of the work anyway[/b], I say that you have more power in this decision. Would he hate to have another or does he simply think it would be better to stop at 1? 
My DH was happy with one. I wanted two and then he agreed... now we are contemplating a third. Some men can change their mind easily and having a sibling is such a great thing....[/quote]

I completely agree with this. DCUM loves the "fewer wins, hard atop." line, but in a case where one partner has effectively pulled a complete bait and switch I'm inclined to disagree. And an only child vs having siblings is DEFINITELY a complete bait and switch [/quote]

How do you define "most of the work"? There is child care but there is also a financial cost and the fathers income provides for that. I think you are selectively only recognizing certain "work" and ignoring other types of work. [/quote]

No, unless the home stands gets a second job to provide for the second child, most of the extra work usually is on mom (pregnancy, bf, caring, etc). Unless of course the wife plans to have the kid and then let the husband be the primary parent... then my opinion changes[/quote]

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