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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I thought I would post an update.  Last night I called DD's mom and explained how sorry we were to bring it up in front of her but we hadn't assumed it would be an issue and how much of an oversight that was. I also invited her to "shadow" us and we could all make a vacation out of it.  She really reacted positively to that idea and said that sounds like a win/win and we hung up on good terms.  She then texted me this morning explaining how that was a really nice offer but work wise its not a good time of year for her to take off. She said that she appreciates the gesture and will most likely let DD come with us after we work a few details out (mainly referring to a certain equestrian camp/ working out dates.). So Im thinking this is heading towards a positive direction. I love being a step mom but there is no handbook and there are a lot of muddy waters. I really just try and do my best and not offend anyone.  Its hard because I also want my kids to have various experiences and it seems keeping everything equal is a must but thats not something I can always control.  Thanks for all the responses. [/quote]

OP, you are doing a great job. Keep in mind that you can't please everyone. Also everything does NOT have to be equal, especially if your step DD does not live with you full time. There is no way that you can make everything equal nor should they be. I have a step DD who is much older than my own children. Things are not EQUAL between any of them, due to their different ages, genders and the fact that step DD does not live in our home. What we strive for is fairness.

It sounds like you and step DD's mom have a good relationship and that is awesome for all involved.

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