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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Woman here. I want to reach out to you because I sense from your posts that you are a decent human being, OP. I want to warn you like others warned you that your career, reputation, and livelihood are on line here. I want you to sober up before it's too late.

This woman, your coworker, is using you, either consciously or subconsciously. Instead of directing her needs and attention to someone outside of professional setting she picked you to do it with because that's what's convenient for her. She wants to conquer you emotionally by breaking down your emotional barriers step by step so that she can finally have you both emotionally and physically, which is the ultimate goal of emotional conquest. You are her modern day Mr. Darcy - strong, masculine, leading her, treating her like a queen, hardworking, someone she can lean on fully for work, knows you are there for her, and now using you emotionally. By using word like "office husband", blushing, giving you little side looks she knows she feeds into what every man wants from a woman. She wants to make you feel needed and protective towards her. That's how she disarms you emotionally. You are a man, a human being, you respond with natural male curiosity towards her cues. This has been done in nature and among humans since forever. There is nothing special in this. You can have this with every woman, including your wife. She knows this. She wants you to be "hers". She wants you to fall in love with her and sacrifice everything: your career, your marriage, your reputation. Why? Why would she do that purposely to you when she has so many other men outside of professional setting to do this age old dance of flirtation? Let me walk you through the next scene.
Once he "has" you emotionally and presumably you take the next step towards physical intimacy you better watch out for total change in her behavior. By submitting to her emotionally and physically you will no longer be viewed as a "challenge". There will be no more mystique. She will stop leaning on you emotionally and giving you that feeling of being needed and wanted. She will "cheat" on you with the next "office husband" who appears more masculine, harder to conquer, more emotionally distant but still decent enough human being to respond to her cues. She will need that flirtatious energy again and once she sapped it out of you she will find a next guy in the office to do it with. What will you be left with?
Emotional and financial wasteland. She might turn nasty on you and falsely accuse you of harassment and rape. You might lose your job simply based on her accusation. HR will not be interested in the fact that she sucked you into it, just into the final act. They will disregard all the good work you have done for the company. You will become a liability. You'll be disgraced. You will lose your current job, your future career prospects will be ruined, your earning potential greatly decreases. You might go through a costly divorce once your wife finds out. You will spend the rest of your life reeling from this affair while she will continue building her career and making other conquests.
Don't be this guy.
Run.
Cut it off now.
Take advice that all others offered you as to how to behave strictly professionally towards her or simply find another job. It's not worth it for you to put your life and future on line because of a woman that you don't truly know and who doesn't love you. Trust me. Just trust me. Get out now.

Read about Billy Graham rule in order to protect yourself. [b]And trust me when I tell you, you can create this world of seduction, flirtation, and emotional fulfillment with your wife too. You can get these needs met in your marriage.[/b] It works.[/quote]

How does one do this?[/quote]

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