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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No my husband and I look at it the way we would a nanny whom we were paying to come to our house. When he gets home from work, I "clock out" as the default caregiver and we share duties. Why? Because this is what we both expect from a "good" husband and father. He wants to be involved in our children's lives.

Ya'll need to have serious conversations with your husbands.[/quote]

No this could be different. In your scenario you both work 40 hours in parallel. So her DH is entitled to 80 hrs/wk for work and recuperating from work (b/c 70 hr high stress jobs as the sole breadwinner is a LOT OF STRESS. Way more than balancing a toddlers screen time. ). We decided both of us working was a better dynamic for us, but the sole breadwinner is different unless you have family money or a lot saved up from before you quit or live somewhere cheap so pressure is off breadwinner[/quote]

I am not quite sure that I understand your scenario.  Does a 70 hr/wk high stress job suddenly become less stressful if your spouse is also working? [/quote]
Yes, because you will not have to work 70 hours a week. If your spouse also works, you can work less because there is additional income to meet the family's needs.[/quote]

Ok.  Who are all of these men who are voluntarily mommy tracking themselves and taking on a significant share of unpaid/unrecognized domestic duties so their wives can return to work?  Oh, and are greatful to do it?

I have never seen this in real life.

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huh? Working 40-50 hours a week isn't mommy/daddy tracking yourself. It's being realistic with your work about the fact that they're paying you for 40 hours and you have a family. [b]DH is a manager and thinks it's important to show his employees that he takes paternity leave, goes to pediatrician appts and leaves work on time.[/b] [/quote]

I hope your DH also recognizes that he is in a privileged position and is likely to be lauded for being such an engaged father, whereas a woman would not be praised for doing the same things, and would probably be seen as unprofessional and not seriousness about her job.[/quote]

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