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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You're 35, you don't want kids, you rent, and you make (for DC) a solidly middle-class salary. Assuming you're saving for retirement (you are, aren't you?) that isn't going to afford a lot of the things childless couples often stay childless to do, like adventuresome vacations.

So, yeah. I'm sure you're a nice guy, but you're not exactly exuding "life partner." Do you have any ambitions that might make you seem more exciting than you do here?[/quote]

Harsh.  The truth is OP does make enough to be attractive to the right woman for him.  Whether he is looking for love in all the wrong places could be part of the difficulty in finding a long term relationship.  Reality is that ruling out woman that want kids, may want kids, have kids - that’s a huge number right there.  There is a higher likelihood of finding this with the early 40’s, no kids but that’s not guaranteed.  Otherwise you would need to find something like the meetup group where people are specifically seeking other people with the same mindset.

With the adventuresome vacations, I will say that could be a factor BUT that could just as much be a difference around the other person having prioritized those things in their life and OP doesn’t.  If I value home ownership and saving to take great vacations, I might not be a good match for someone that doesn’t have an eye towards home ownership and chooses to spend disposable income on a really nice car.  When you are in your early 20’s it’s hard to know where anyone ends up on these things but by mid-30’s it’s more obvious where we match.  BTW I married someone that was making less at the time and isn’t in a high paying career.  For the most part we are similar in how we spend our money including that we enjoy traveling over beach vacations.  His family didn’t have a lot of money (teachers) and managed to travel around the US and some international vacations.  There were other places where they sacrificed to have those experiences.  So to OP find someone that has similar priorities in addition to not wanting children and you will be OK.  I know a few reporters/writers and it seems like their spouses were also had a similar background even if they are in a different field now or appreciate/respect the profession.  One person met their spouse by corresponding about an article, another it was via work.[/quote]

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