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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We were just at the beach for spring break at a wonderful resort with a rather small beach area.  There was a family there who clearly seemed to have a tiger mom dynamic.  Mom brought flash cards and word search puzzles for her DS.  She spent nearly all day every day doing activities with and entertaining him on the beach.  The dad was typically checked out reading.

Their child never played with another child, although there were plenty around.  Mom seemed to direct his whole experience.

My kids made friends immediately with other kids.  We did things together as a family but they also spent time in the pool or ocean with their buddies.

Social skills are so important to success.  I don’t think that this mom understands how much she is hampering her son’s growth and confidence by controlling everything.  Furthermore, as others have pointed out, it seems that tiger mom parents are often fulfilling their own needs to show off or be needed rather than foster emotional and social skills and independence in their children.  
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I really hate this smug post. You have no idea what this mom is going through. Maybe it is how you think it is or maybe the kids have special needs. Also kids of Tiger Moms are not necessarily socially clumsy nerds. I know plenty who are very social and popular but just have demanding parents.[/quote]

It's really irrelevant whether my assessment is correct or not.  I'll never see these people again and I had zero interaction with them.  It simply was a situation where I observed behavior that was - to me - consistent with that of a Tiger Mom.

I never labeled the kid as a "socially clumsy nerd" and would never talk about a child that way.  I pointed out that helicopter/controlling behavior by a parent can impede the development of a child's social skills and confidence. Over the course of a week, I never saw this child interact with another.   I found it a bit sad, as he seemed rather bored, but the mom had him doing something constantly.

Of course Tiger Moms can have social and popular kids.  In some cases, climbing the social ladder is a big part of a Tiger Mom's goal. Or kids can be social in spite of their demanding parents.  Neither of those scenarios appeared to be the case with this family, but WHO KNOWS?!  The mystery will have to end here on DCUM.  
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