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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Before I left for work H told me he was planning his own trip later this week with his friends.  He said he needed a break from me.  He said I am intolerable to be around and I make him miserable.  I told him welcome to my life and the feelings were mutual.  I told him to have a wonderful time and to stay gone the rest of the month if he wanted.  I smiled and walked away.  I said earlier that my marriage probably won't last the summer.  I don't think it will make it till the end of the week.  I am giddy at the prospect of having him gone.  I already planned to take the kids skiing this weekend.  I was worried he might want to come.  Now he will be gone doing his own thing!!  What a lovely way to start off the week.[/quote]

I very much support the line you drew and getting your kids and husband to work around the house.  But do you really want to throw away your marriage with this level of anger and spite?  Marriage counseling, whether to fix your marriage or lead to a more peaceful divorce will be a gift to your kids.  Divorce will not be pretty if you go into it with this much contempt for each other.[/quote]

It's clear that this has been festering for a long time. OP didn't "do everything" for a week, a month, probably even a year. And most likely OP has said things before about her husband and kids helping out more. I see this in older generations in my family. They complain about it endlessly but continue to do everything, so nobody has any motivation to start doing things on their own. Once you're at the point where your husband/kids are entitled, it's very difficult to come back from. I'm not saying OP should absolutely divorce but there's no easy solution.

Moral of the story for everyone else - don't let it get this bad. [/quote]

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