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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. 
Thank you all again for your advice and thoughts.

After a day of silence between us, I tried to fairly and openly communicate my thoughts and feelings to my wife last night via text.

As usual, she ignored all of them. When I told her this morning how much that hurt my feelings, she told me not to write her in the middle of the night, although it was 9 pm and she was upstairs on her phone).

I told her that it seems like she doesn't care about or even respect my thoughts and feelings and that I didn't want to fight in front of the boy, so I went downstairs to get away from her and get ready for work.

She, of course, followed me downstairs and started screaming at me while the kid is upstairs crying and wanting to finish the breakfast she started feeding him.

She actually stopped feeding her baby to continue yelling at me. She also told me that my feelings and thoughts are "Blah blah blah". Even those of you blaming me for all of this can surely see how invalidating and cruel her words are.

Since she has blocked me via text and phone, I am going to write her today with a list of issues that have gone unresolved for several years. These include my insistence that she see an individual therapist...I made this request after she pushed me down the stairs two years ago and tried to cut her wrists with a kitchen knife. I have been seeing the same therapist for over four years and it has been a tremendous help; she has seen at least four therapists over the past two years and will not commit to any of them; they're all too hard on her background, apparently.

I'm going to tell her that if steps are not taken to resolve all of the issues, I will have no choice but to file for divorce in order to provide a stable situation for our son.

I also plan on telling her I am going to file for full custody; I am in the process of changing jobs from an office/cubicle government gig to a remote work with travel situation, and I will be able to live wherever I want. I will also be making more money than her, living in a place with better schools and higher median income than our current neighborhood. I don't have every indiscretion of hers documented, but I have a few.

Is there any way a judge would side with me?[/quote]

You sound like a whiny immature person OP. I would listen to the PP that recommended therapy and learning how to “fight”. You also seem selfish to me and you love playing the victim. I am sure that if your wife wrote here, we would hear about your passive aggressive behavior, of you making her feel like you are the victim, etc... grow some bal#s. If you leave the marriage, YOU are the one giving up.[/quote]

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