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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This describes me as well, although I would not say it is because I care about social standing or looking perfect. I hate to appear that I need help. I would always rather handle something myself than ask for help.[b] I hate looking vulnerable. And I hate feeling like I need to return a favor (although I love doing for others and except nothing back[/b]). I’m sure I’ve got gobs of stuff to unpack in therapy related to these feelings but they are what they are. Maybe your wife is similar, OP. [/quote]

This, my friend, is called 'pride'. One of seven deadly sins. You think you're better than others, don't you? That's why you 'hate looking vulnerable' and enjoy 'doing for others and 'except' nothing back'. That's why you'd rather handle something yourself than ask for help. Problem is, you ain't God almighty, and the sooner you realize and 'except' that, the better.[/quote]
DP. What's "better"? With the reaction like yours, I can see how PP would not want help. You are assigning problems to PP, randomly. [b]That's what people often get when opening up to strangers. OP's wife got "it's all her fault" here several times. That's the reaction, even if it's not said out loud. [/quote][/b]

NP.

From the bolded, you seem to agree that OP's wife is proud and selfish. It is not about her. It is about her daughter. What if some people wrongly accuse her of being at fault. So what? Some others may have good advice while others can keep an eye on the child to make sure to call OP and his wife if they see anything that they need to know.

Everybody needs others. If you would always rather handle something yourself, you are either too proud or you have trust issues. Either way, it is not good especially when you have children. You end up with children with pride and trust issues.[/quote]

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