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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I want my cousin to have some clarity that if her teen daughter calls her at a horrible party where people are getting high and drunk and she asks to pick her up, that she will get her. [/quote]

Tell the teen your story and how it has affected you, all these years later (you can leave out the part where her mom minimizes it, or just say that her mom didn't think it was so bad but you did).  Tell her that she can always call you if she needs help.   Put your number on her "favorites" in iPhone or equivalent.

Secondly, tell the teen that in these situations, the millisecond the teen feels uncomfortable is the time to get out.  Because in these situations, with every passing moment it becomes harder to leave (more awkward, more weird, more peer pressure) and then you end up resorting to locking onesself in a bedroom and everyone getting pissed off at you. And come up with a great excuse beforehand; that handy-dandy excuse. (in our house it's 'my grandma is sick and we have to go meet her at the hospital'.  My friend's is 'relative just arrived unannounced and Larla has to come home.')  Obviously in college, it will have to be something different, like "my roommate is sick and I need to go see what's up" or something else if the room mate is with her.[/quote]

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