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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People change. Physically and mentally.  I used to have a strong sex drive.  Kids changed me.  Not just from a mental perspective.  Physically/hormonally/etc.  I don't respond to sex the same way anymore. My body does not respond the same way. What used to work.. doesn't anymore.  What used to take minutes... can take hours now. What used to feel good... does not anymore. And I hate when people say things like "you are doing it wrong" or "you just need to spice things up" or "go away alone together.." etc. As if I haven't tried any number of things to fix the situation myself. Its embarrassing to have this issue and it often feels like something is wrong.. like I am broken.

I am saying all this because I can empathize with your wife. You are not wrong for wanting more... but It just might not be as easy as asking for more physical intimacy.  And it might not be that easy for her to discuss/fix/change.

It sounds like your relationship has a lot of good components.  And it sounds like it would be worth trying to keep/save.  Just try to understand the other perspective...[/quote]

I think unless there's something physical/painful going on she should try to compromise. That I don't understand.

People do change. Aging and health are a big one. Some aren't as attracted to their partners and don't want to admit it. It could be a thousand things, but I find that most things can be worked out. We know the statistics of 2nd marriages.  They fail at a greater rate, and sex isn't the big binder. [/quote]

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