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Fiest, there are many, many responders all telling you the same thing. You seem to assume, incorrectly, that it’s one person.  Second, actually most responses are responding to the OP. Her whole comment was that based on her kid eating alone in the hallway and not having lots of friends, Looking back now, if she had to “do over again, I would have definitely sent DD to the AAP center in middle school for both social and academic reasons.”  Most responders are explaining that a kid with few connections 3/4 the way they middle school likely has these issues within herself and not because she chose one school over the other 1.75 years ago. YOU are then changing the scenario cracking about fictional kids with facial deformities, kids eating alone in the CAFETERIA, kids are absolutely knowingly ignoring her in the hallway, etc. the OP wasn’t asking you to crusade on her behalf to fix all the wrongs you’re incorrectly finding. [/quote]

While I agree OP's child likely has issues within herself, my first comment was that it was disappointing that[b] no one during all those years has tried to befriend her during any part of the school day.[/b] Then another PP turned that around to talk about the cafeteria and how no one would notice her and how kids by nature are indifferent to others needs. I kept bringing it back to the entire school day, but she persisted with the cafeteria not being noticeable so I had to address her comment.[/quote]

You have no idea if this is true.  Perhaps the kid is depressed and rejects advances of others.  Perhaps others were kind and she didn't realize it.  Perhaps she has hurt others and they had enough.  STOP ASSUMING the worst in people.[/quote]

It's very possible that these things did happen. However, OP didn't mention them other than the possible depression and [b]that likely could have happened after the rejection and indifference which is the more likely scenario.[/b] So I have no reason to think she had friends and then lost them. It wasn't mentioned. Acceptance is a basic human need and without it, problems arise for the child not accepted which can also affect the entire school in turn. OP also mentioned that she thought a center might have more kids who would have befriended her child, [b]so that led me to think that the kids at this middle school didn't have as much in common or try to be as friendly as they might be at a different school. [/b]That's how I interpreted the scenario. I agree that OP's child is probably the cause of some of this behavior towards her, but I'm also aware of middle school social dynamics and based on OP's post, I also [b]believe that there were kids who could[/b] [b]have been friendlier over these years and chose to be indifferent.[/b] That's my opinion and you can choose to disagree, but if you are going to post, it might be helpful to actually give advice. The PP's who gave me put downs weren't really making anyone including me assume the better in people. [/quote]

These aren’t opinions. These are assumptions. Just. Stop. [/quote]

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