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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I thought you meant like, Vicky vs. Vicki, where it's a spelling difference.  I think Susie vs. Suzi is a big enough difference that it's not misspelling, it's a different nickname your DD has from her grandmother.  That's less bothersome to me because it won't confuse the kid about spelling and letters, and more of a "you can have this thing together" issue.[/quote]
What? Are you pronouncing Susie and Suzi differently?  That said, so what; people misspelled my nn accidentally but I still learned to spell it. I’m 46 and my mom’s side still misspells it. No biggie.[/quote]

+1  This is the textbook definition of small stuff OP.[/quote]
No, it's a passive-aggressive control tactic done deliberately. A person's name is important, including spelling. It may seem small now, but I think OP should stand up their child now, rather than letting MIL influence extend into other areas of parental decisions down the road. My suggestion would be to simply return the incorrectly personalized item and thank MIL for the thought, but you won't accept gifts with the incorrect name.[/quote]

I agree.  It's passive-aggressive.  It's rude.  And it's going to be confusing for your daughter.  Who wants gifts with the wrong name on it??

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I don’t agree.  It’s not the kid’s name.  It’s a nickname.  If this is the biggest thing OP has to be annoyed about she should count her blessings.[/quote]

I see it as much more than that.  the grandma had it embroidered.  She didn't write the wrong name on a card. It was well thought out.  She is playing games.  She is letting her daughter in law know that she doesn't like her name and she is going to push for the name she wants.  It is passive-aggressive.  And it's probably not the first time nor the last time she will be this way.  And in my life personally.... I find I am much happier setting boundaries with people like this and telling them what I think.  To farther complicate things she brings the child into this issue who is learning to recognize her name.  and how does that continue?  "oh grandma wishes your name was spelled that way so that is the way she spells it"    No big deal right?  Your name is Larly but grandma spells it Larli.  We let grandma do whatever she wants just to keep the peace.   Except then you realize there is no peace with grandma and she is a huge PITA and complicating many things that dont have to be that way.  Grandma doesn't respect her daughter-in-law.  [/quote]

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