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He begged me to stay,cried and said he was willing to do anything to save the marriage. He wrote me letters after letters of apologies about how heartbroken he was over what he did and how it was the biggest regret of his life. What i dont get is while he was telling me all of that, he was still lying about the details of the affair and that he was still in contact with the OW. He said he only texted her when he was depressed and I was not talking to him because we had a fight or something. Every week, he confessed to some new lies after I keep digging and asking questions when the story doesnt make sense, or finding evidence, and he tells me that he lied because he did not want to hurt me. He just wanted us to move on from the affair without having to share the details because he did not want to see me hurt, so he keeps lying not to hurt me[/quote]

Everything he is saying to you is classing man-having-an-affair speak.  They will always give you the trickle truth, they will always say they are trying to spare your feelings by not being completely honest.  This is a man who doesn't regret the affair or hurting you, he regrets getting caught.

Please see the torture of going through this divorce as a way to save yourself from having to go through the same heartbreak over, over, and over again.  Because if you stay with this man he will keep doing this.  I know, I've been with mine for 5 years and we're on Dday number 5 at this point.  Choose to go through the grief process now and be done with it so you don't have to go through it every 6 months if you stay with this guy.  Do you really want to live like me?  Constantly paranoid and constantly snooping and constantly being devastated, all over again? Get out now while it's still relatively early.  You will find love again,  I promise. [/quote]

The trickle truth is what hurts the most, it's like reliving D-day over and over again.  And yes I do not want to live like this, i find myself checking emails/phone logs/ fbook messages ect. always trying to find something, it's like I am losing myself. I am not the kind of woman who snoops, always checks her partner's phone/email ect. this is not me, and I dont like this person. And my fear is by staying with him, I will become that insecure person, always on the edge. Why are you still staying?[/quote]

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