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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I work as a marketing manager and make a decent salary and am planning to go get a graduate degree. I have paid for everything on my own since we started dating except that my DH would buy me dinner.

In our marriage, since he earns more, he pays for rent and groceries. I buy groceries every few weeks too and pay for gas for the car. I also contribute half to our car payment and pay all of our car insurance.

I am the only one contributing to our savings and am saving aggressively for my 401K. DH doesn't have one yet as he is paying off his school loans.

I do not see how MIL perceives me as being lazy and a moocher.

And God forbid I want to stay home and have to rely on my husband. HOW is that a problem?

[b]I told my DH what his mother said he he blew up at me saying he cannot control his mother and she is her own person and it makes no sense for me to complain to him about her behavior.[/b]

I feel dejected and alone. I feel like my personal boundaries are being invaded and no one is helping.[/quote]
Sounds like you now know how he feels about supporting you. Start contributing equally financially to the marriage.[/quote]
It sounds like she is contributing financially. Doesn't matter if you don't think that what she pays for is a 'real' contribution or not.  Retirement savings have to come from somewhere, car insurance is a legal requirement as well as a good idea, cars don't run without gas, and groceries are needed for the household.  Rent and utilities are not the only real contributions.[/quote]

Only two people need to be happy with their financial arrangement- OP and her dh. One of two, the dh, is clearly unhappy with the arrangement.[/quote]

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