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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You've already tried telling her to hand back the responsibility and she's made it clear she's not comfortable with that, so don't keep pushing it. That's the opposite or supportive and helpful right now. If I were you, I would instead focus on how you can support and assist her. [b]Can you take on more of the household responsibilities so there's less on her when she gets home? Offer to be the one to drive him to an appointment or run some errands for him?[/b] Instead of telling she should use Peapod to order groceries for him instead of shopping and delivering herself, offer to take responsibility for his groceries yourself, and then make your own decisions about to get it done. That includes not just doing the ordering yourself, but following up with her dad to make sure it arrived and that there was nothing missing, and going out for anything that was. Part of the struggle with delegating is trusting that the task will be done properly without her needing to be involved further, and if she knows that a Peapod order is going to result in phone calls to her from her dad about X that was missing or Y produce that wasn't to his liking, she may feel it's easier to just do it all herself because then she'll know it was done right the first time.[/quote]

I work full time, and already do the lion's share of cooking, grocery shopping, cleaning, and so on. Someone has to keep the refrigerator full and cook the food.

I will be 100% honest and upfront and say that I am unwilling to take on responsibility for his appointments or groceries or care.  [/quote]

[b]Wow, she really did marry her dad[/b].[/quote]

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What's the question? Her dad demands that his daughter's attention be on him and wasn't willing to lift a finger to help through aging/illness. OP is demanding that his wife's attention be on him and isn't willing to lift a finger to help through aging/illness.[/quote]

Bit of a strawman, don't you think?[/quote]

NP.  Please don't use big words like "strawman" when you don't know what the heck it means.

Carry on.[/quote]

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