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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^ Another option is to frame it as each of MILs 3 children will be in charge of each day of the 3 day weekend.

They can pick the restaurant and ecide what the group does to celebrate as well as pick up the tab. Insist on at least one restaurant meal. That way you get credit for what you do and you’re not running yourself ragged on the siblings days.

You can kind of shame them into stepping up. [/quote]

This isn't the time to throw down the gauntlet with the BIL & SIL but you can certainly be firm about what you need to make this weekend work:
1)  Divvy up the meals and have others be in charge of some of them.  Make sure it is in writing ("just a quick summary on what we agreed on plans for the weekend....") on who is doing what when so that everyone doesn't look to you if someone falls down on the job
2)  Agree with your DH that you will 'disappear' for a small part of the weekend to recharge a bit on your own
3)  Your DH will take the day off from work before everyone arrives to help get the house ready
4)  You will hire a cleaning service before and after
5)  You have your DH talk to his brother and say that your family is happy to host this big milestone gathering but that your family would really like to come visit them next year for a more casual gathering and to share the hosting duties a bit.
5)  Instead of pizza or cooking a big spread, you will do a casual catering option (BBQ, taco bar, outdoor BBQ, etc.)

Good luck and hope the party goes well.[/quote]

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