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[quote=Anonymous]Glad you've come around on skipping the retreat, that would be horrible! I think you should let the ILs all stay with you, even though they have never hosted you. But I do think you need to try not to stress about details. It sounds like you are the only one with high expectations.

If you want the actual birthday party to be nicer than your ILs would prepare, you take the lead on planning that. Delegate everything else! I used to hate hosting my ILs when DH and I were first married, but over time I got more comfortable with them, and ordering them around. Tell SIl to pick up the ice/beer/catering etc while BIL sets the table and DH rearranges furniture. The day before, DH cleans the bathrooms and your kids help pick up toys and you wash the sheets and towels. I totally agree on having the other families responsible for planning the other day's activities. You can give them ideas, provide take out menues or restaurant suggestions, but don't stress about how the rest of the weekend turns out.

And I think it would be totally fine to schedule a message or yoga class or whatever for some time during the weekend! You can be a good host without having to spend every single minute with your guests. [/quote]

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