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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That would be shitty of you to do a yoga retreat.  Just host her birthday dinner at a restaurant.  Problem solved.

Your attitude about "not even a blood relative" really disgusted me.  If you had three children but one was adopted would you love that one less because they weren't a blood relative?  Your attitude with that phrase put an awful taste in my mouth.[/quote]

This seems to be triggering a lot of people. If I had an adopted child, I would love that child as I do any child. The reason I used the term "non-blood relative" was to indicate that I think there is more of a duty on SIL or BIL to care for their mother than on me. I have my mother, who, for me, is more special than my mother-in-law. MIL is still special, but my own mother is more special. [/quote]

Feeling as you do, you should really understand this better than you do. These are her only grandchildren, blood or otherwise. The others -SIL and BIL didn't step up and have kids for grandma to fawn over. They aren't jealous of you for having said kids. They aren't jealous she could be anywhere and is choosing to be with your family. Everyone is happy she values your family so much and that she would rather be with your family. Just as your mother would want to be with you, she wants to be with her 'babies'. Hanging at your place probably brings back nice feelings for them all of when they were growing up. Literally, you could write in a performance and it would still be fine paper plates/whatever.[/quote]

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