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OP here, basically I do everything so that DH doesn't have to worry about anything but his work. All household management, finances and budget, travel and social lives all handled by me. He comes home to a clean and pleasant home (and a clean and pleasant wife, ha!) every single day.

I do volunteer once a week at a women's organization and am usually on a fundraising committee of some sort. [/quote]

If you are really handling all that, and you remain very cheerful and supportive, I probably wouldn't be resentful. But even with kids, once they are in school, the SAHP better darn sure be pulling their weight. Otherwise, yes, I resent it. There's a reason they have to pay people to go to work. There's a reason people dread Mondays and live for Fridays. SAHPs don't experience half the stress that the go-to-work parent does. They don't have deadlines, bosses, performance evaluations, quotas, bad co-workers, soul sucking responsibilities, or the knowledge that the financial well-being of their whole family rests on their shoulders. They HAVE to keep their job so they don't have the luxury of slacking off. For a SAHP, if they are tired, they can just take a nap. I'm not saying they can do it all day every day, but if you sneak in an hour nap every once in a while, no one would be the wiser. We can't do that. So the house better damn sure be clean. The food better be cooked. The groceries stocked. The love made. There's no excuse.

But if it's been 6 months since the bathroom was cleaned. 
DH: What'd you do today? 
DW: Some laundry. [That means some laundry was put in the machine and then left for hours after it finished.] Can you move it over to the dryer for me?  
DH: Is that all you did?
DW: [Hell breaks loose]

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