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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am south asian- dad is north Indian and Mom is pakistani and my dadi (paternal grandmother) only wore saaris, my maternal grandmother only wore thang/churridar pyjamas and I have several as heirlooms. I'm having one of my grandmother's kameezes framed and displayed b/c its cloth of gold and very fragile. I had told her of my intention and she thought it was slightly weird to decorate with clothing but totally not offended. I'm totally going to do this with my grandmothers' saari- its a lovely idea.  I think that is actually a wonderful way to add an indian touch to your decor and use the beautiful gift your MIL gave you. She might laugh about it with her friends but its increasingly common to see indian textiles used this way on the subcontinent itself. I have a gorgeous bedcover stitched from antique sari's so its being done.  if she is going to be offended than she is just the type who will be offended by everything. [/quote]
Getting heirloom pieces framed is completely different than what OP has done.

A saree that was gifted as a wedding present is likely pretty expensive, and no SA MIL is going to think it's an honor to have it hanging up on the wall. My mom takes her expensive sarees and wraps them in special fabric and stores them like you would your wedding dress. Even if you would hang your wedding dress on your wall as decor, you probably wouldn't use it as a window dressing (which is how it's used in the article that OP linked). I totally get using Indian textiles, and even actual sarees, as decor. I wouldn't do that with a saree of any kind of value. It's just sort of bizarre and signifies that you don't understand the value of the gift you've been given.[/quote]

So she's supposed to just keep it wrapped in a box forever? And then lug it around from place to place when she moves? What if she doesn't like baggage? What if she's not the type to keep her wedding dress and every other single thing that anyone ever gave her throughout her life? It's very disrespectful giving someone a "gift" and then putting restrictions on what they can do with it. Especially when those restrictions mean "keep it wrapped in a box forever".

Just curious, are you suggesting that the best thing would have been to just give it back, and say that she is aware that it's expensive (if it was, otherwise I guess that would be awkward), say that she's not the type to just keep things in a box forever, and she doesn't want to cause offense so she'd rather her MIL take it back?[/quote]

Lady, you really need to sit down. No one said keep it in a box forever, everyone is saying to take it down while she's there.

You are the type that just likes to stir up shit for attention. [/quote]

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