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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Be glad that you are a hands on mom and that you're putting your family first.  You're 40 and you need to stop caring about what people think.  It sounds like you're happy with your job.  You do realize that if you took a more demanding, higher paying job, that you wouldn't be able to be there for your kids, since your husband works so much, right?  So be happy with your choices.  [/quote]

Not OP, but I needed to hear this. It *is* a choice for me. 
I know that it is not a choice for others. And, more importantly, I also know that even when it is a choice, others may choose differently from me because they value their careers/self more than their role as mother/caregiver, and that is fine too.

I think I'm struggling with the idea that we, as a society, used to feel that SAHM was the job of most prestige. Women who became mothers only worked when they "had to"...and then slowly that shifted to become the empowered thing to have choices. And now the pendulum has swung completely to the opposite side where there is now disdain for SAHM, and those moms feel that pretty heavily.

The problem lies in women feeling the need to staunchly defend their choices by putting down the other choice as inferior or unimportant work, rather than celebrating that we now have options and none of those options is a WASTE. It's just a different choice![/quote]

OP I wrote a supportive post earlier, but after reading this, you sound truly clueless. SAHM was never "prestigious." I mean, for the women it works out for, sure, but get out of your bubble and talk to women older than you, from generations where women didn't have the options we have today, whose husbands left them with very little or who were wealthy at one time but then things changed, or whose DH became unemployed. I grew up pretty wealthy and my mom's circle all stayed home, and many of them are divorced and working retail now. Lots of DHs ended up being successful in their youth but one lay off or market crash later and a lot of them turned into alcoholics and lost everything.

Ask a woman who got two years of alimony after being out of the workforce for 20 years how prestigious it is.

You need to educate yourself, get out of your bubble, and quit worrying how people perceive you. Do what makes YOU happy, not what will make other people think differently about you. [/quote]

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