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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have plenty of close Asian friends and they are happy today. That does not mean their parents weren't horrible to them. I vividly recall breakdowns in college about the continued pressure. I had a friend commit suicide without even leaving a note. Anyway, I don't for a second think that it's appropriate to raise children that way. My friends wouldn't disagree. So far none have raised their children that way.[/quote]

Most Asian Americans I know (born and raised here by those kinds of parents) ARE raising their kids that way. It's more subtle. They're a bit more lenient than their parents were. They're not starting SAT pressure in 6th grade. Yet they ARE doing many similar things just watered down . . . .[/quote]

Watered down is what well educated white people do too. It isn't doing testing drills every night...trust me it's like night and day. At best, I'd describe my.friends parents as manipulative, no-boundaries, no-trust and threatening explosion from.the family for not complying.[/quote]

Ok your Asian friends grew up differently then. We had a lot of school/college expectation and sure extra emphasis on school but it was far from 24-7 drilling — more like an extra 10-15 hrs/wk max and plenty of time still for reading babysitters club, riding bikes, tv etc — and no manipulation, distrust or family strife. I can see why they aren’t running their families like that now - I wouldn’t either.
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