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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]yeah, throw the candy away if treats 4x a year is such a struggle but maybe also deal with how you hate your MIL for being fat and are terrified and angry that your children are related to her.[/quote]

You sound like the jerk, OP, not your MIL.

We get a ton of candy from my mom. Tons, more than what you describe, and year-round not just related to holidays. For years, I let my kids pick a few pieces and then quietly dumped the rest. I did tell my mom at one point (and only mildly) that while they loved the gifts, they couldn't eat it all, and some of it went to waste, so could she consider scaling back a bit. She scaled back minimally. And yes, it was frustrating to me because it was extra work for me. But I thought that keeping a close relationship was more important than me griping about throwing out a few extra bags of candy once or twice a month.

Years later they're teens, with a very close relationship to their grandmother. Grandmother still gives them candy; they give her a hug, laugh about how much she gave them, eat a little of it, and toss the rest away on their own. Also, because OP will care about this although frankly it shouldn't matter, my kids are all very athletic and have no problem whatsoever with obesity. But what they do have is a grandmother who adores them, and who they can confide in, and who they want to spend time with, which I consider a gift.[/quote]

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