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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You have at least 2 issues besides the candy:

1) You have a resentment for your MIL's obesity and her ability to function. You sound like her disability from her obesity annoys you.  You sound like you might be afraid that she is teaching your children her poor eating habits.

2) You sound like you resent that she is spoiling your children and you have to play "bad mommy" to her "fun grandma" role.  [/quote]

I don't mean to go all white knight here on DCUM - but my MIL has some similar stuff. (And let me preface this by saying: I LOVE my inlaws. I love my husband. This is just the lay of the land, not a piece of a landscape of resentment.)

My husband is obese. He comes from a family of obese people who constantly talk about needing to lose weight - while the table is covered in dessert after dessert. When we were home seeing them at Christmas, my husband had just gone through a very serious diabetic episode, which his mother knew about - and she was still encouraging him to eat cake and potatoes. I love my inlaws, like I said - and I could have throttled them. My MIL baked my husband's favorite cake, even knowing he couldn't eat it. Like someone else said - I think this food stuff is all tied up in showing love, but it's also pretty destructive.

So there are good reasons to worry about what the parents are encouraging in the kids.

The candy sounds annoying. You've gotten some good suggestions, OP. I would ask her to stop - just explain that you don't want your kids eating that much candy, so you're either going to have to give it away or throw it away when she sends it. Then either give it away or throw it away when she sends it. But don't harp on it with her; just do what you need to do with the candy. Don't get too exercised about it, just do what you need to do - and let it go.[/quote]

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