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My mom did this around that age.  She pared down, sold the home that she had lived in for 40+ years.  It was a process but one that she had started years prior and to her great credit she saw it through.  She still has family pictures and other things of sentimental value but it's all neat and orderly.  She knows what she has.

In-laws were military who moved around a lot so they have less stuff to contend with in the first place.  They pared down over the years with each move and their last move happened after all the kids had left the nest so they have a pretty orderly home.

We're in our 50's with 2 kids still at home and we're keeping this all in mind as we acquire stuff.  If we don't use it, if it has no sentimental value - it's gone.  We try to participate in yard sales every year and donate to charities.  We moved a few years ago and it was shocking how much stuff we had in our home of 20 years. Closets were full, basement storage was packed full of stuff, boxes in crawl spaces, bins under beds - all of it had to be gone through.  We donated stuff, we sold stuff and we threw a ton of stuff away - it was a grueling process because we were short on time and had to get our house ready for sale (spruced up/staged) within a month.

I can't imagine being elderly and trying to do all of that.  It about did me in and I was only late 40's.  Never again.
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It's really [i]hard[/i].

This is a relatively new problem for the middle class. "Stuff" is just more cheap now, and so we have more things and more space to let them pile up. Doign it for someone else is an ordeal on top of the grieving, but it's often an ordeal you take on out of love, even when it is almost insurmountably difficult for you.

And then you vow not to ask that of your own kids while they are grieving. :)[/quote]

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